Why Concerned Mothers Join the Men’s Rights Movement
Suzanne Venker published her provocative op-ed in 2013 to promote her book The War on Men, and she became the standard bearer for the Men’s Rights movement. She immediately started receiving invitations to protest against feminism on TV, and her public stances ranged from suggesting that assault allegations are largely exaggerated to arguing that stay-at-home fathers are actually fighting their natural instincts. According to her, there is a shortage of good and masculine men, and women are at fault for that because they have “tilted the playing field” to their disadvantage in the blind charge towards gender equality.
She believes that women are the privileged gender and that her duty as a mother is to advocate on behalf of her son.
She told Fatherly that one of the things they stressed when she got involved on an activist level was that it’s really the mothers of sons who are going to make the difference. Venker is not the only activist, though, as many women, particularly mothers, are joining the men’s rights movement.
Men’s rights mothers always rally on the idea that there is something very wrong about the way American boys are being raised, and they firmly believe that there is a disconnect between the emotional intelligence required of the “modern men” and the masculine qualities instilled in boys. They think that feminism is much to blame for this, despite the prominent fact that feminists protested against the similar problems decades and decades ago. So, is this is a try to flip the sides of the same coin? Actually, no, because we both believe that boys are being raised wrong and we want to change that.
Venker comes from a long line of conservatives, including her anti-feminist aunt Phyllis Schlafly who campaigned against the ratification of the Equal Rights Amendment. Apparently, the men’s rights activists legitimize the movement as being about a “broad cultural concern, not the outright and explicit subjugation of women”, and they believe that the birth of a son is increasingly radicalizing them in the men’s rights movement.
Janet Bloomfield is another men’s rights activists who said that she didn’t think about men’s rights until she had a son, and she believes that “the disadvantages a child may face are of interest to all parents, especially when those disadvantages are based on gender”. She grew up on a farm, and she always thought that being a woman was a privilege. She doesn’t worry much about her daughter, because she thinks that the system will take care of her, but she worries about her son who might have his life ruined by false accusations of assault or harassment and that women’s rights movements might be weaponized against him.
Let’s get to the facts now, shall we? The chances that her son will be falsely accused are not supported by evidence at any means, as the numbers suggest that only 2% of all the assault allegations are false, so no worries there. And the biggest fact of all is that practically no man should worry that he might get accused of something he didn’t do if he behaves as he should.