An extremely conservative Christian organization called ‘Focus on the Family’ has some pretty backward ideas about how men and women should conduct themselves while in “Holy Matrimony”.
Of course, we expected nothing less than the most retrograde concept of marriage one can imagine, and we were still let down.
The organization refers to women as Wives, and to men as Men, and it has been reported that it has published a new book which recommends women who have been cheated on by their husbands to take a long, hard look at themselves.
Yup, you read that right.
The book is called “The Other Woman”: Saving Your Marriage After Infidelity, and it’s written by Tina Konkin, who is an actual marriage counselor.
Her story begins when her husband cheated on her with her best friend, so she writes that God spoke to her and asked her “What role did she play in this”.
Yes, this is an actual part of her story, and it’s about how she answered:
Look, we understand that it’s not completely horrible advice, and you maybe need to think about patterns in the relationship if you want to make your marriage work after infidelity (and a lot of people actually do, so we don’t judge here).
However, the problem here is that Konkin implies that she made her husband cheat on her, and she says that she’s somehow responsible for his actions, even though he is a grown-up man, and we can never agree with that.