Although the “everyone gets a trophy” technique might be useful in younger ages, it’s actually a bad practice when they grow up. In reality, each one of us is different in our own, unique way, and our differences should always be celebrated. With that in mind, we must admit that we’re not all “gifted” in every possible field or in everything we do. It’s the truth, and there’s no shame in that.
Every parent wants the best for their kids, and it’s great if you support your child’s dreams. Even if there’s not enough “raw” talent in there, supporting your kid in what they want to do is probably the best thing you can do for them. What’s not Okay is to compete with other parents and use your kid to win some kind of a catty competition in “who raised the most talented child”.
Reddit user u/FriendlyPurpose5 recently decided to ask fellow Redditors if he was the a-hole for telling his sister that her daughter (his niece) was “ordinary”, while his son was “gifted”. Needless to say, the internet reacted accordingly.
This one is tough. While it was 100% wrong for his sister to shame his son in front of him and directly compare her daughter to her brother’s son, he probably didn’t also have to make her cry and say her daughter wasn’t special. Families are complicated!
Ouch. This one is rather tough. Although I believe the sister was a massive a-hole for shaming the teenage boy, especially in front of him, the dad probably also didn’t have to make the girl cry and say that she wasn’t special. Most people seem to agree, and voted that everyone sucks in this situation. Do you agree? How would you have reacted if some of your relatives offended your child in front of them?
