Many people don’t get along well with the parents of their significant other’s and that’s OK.
I mean, there can be a number of reasons for that, or maybe you just don’t share the same interests, or they are pushy about how you should be living your lives.
However, one guy who decided to write into The Guardian had a very, very uncommon reason to not get along with his girlfriend’s father: they used to sleep together.
The man looked for advice, so he decided to write into The Guardian’s Pamela Stephenson Connolly – a psychotherapist who specializes in treating intimate disorders. He wrote that he was through a bi-phase in his life five years ago, and he used to sleep around with pretty much everyone that came along, including other men.
He noted that this changed when he fell in love with his current partner, and she’s everything to him. So, he recently met her parents, and halfway through lunch, he realized that he had slept with her father. He was previously planing to propose, but his partner’s father privately told him that he has to end things with his daughter. So, the anonymous guy asked Connolly if he shall just ignore him, or tell his partner because he’s obviously in love with his partner.
Dr. Connolly wrote that she’s not sure if he could ever have a comfortable future with his new partner, and to tell her the truth would be to court disaster, which would probably end up in them breaking up and the risk of a permanent rift between father and daughter and father and wife.
However, hiding the truth would lead to toxic secret-keeping and it could be equally destructive in the long run.
She also noted that the father has made it clear that this guy will not be welcome, so she advised him to walk away now and avoid the massive pain that would otherwise be inflicted on himself, his partner, and her family.
What do you think about this whole situation? What advice would you give to this guy?
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