28 weeks into her pregnancy, Chloe Dunstan and her family were incredibly thrilled at the prospect of having triplets. No one could even imagine that their biggest excitement will turn into their biggest heartbreak.
At one of her regular checkups the doctors discovered that her two boys were doing fine, but their third baby girl was not going to make it. The only way to save her was to deliver early. She was also informed that if she let her girl go, her boys would be fine with no risk at all. Chloe knew, deep into her heart that she is faced with an impossible decision, but a choice had to be made.
She thought it over as much as she could because this life-changing decision will have a lasting effect for the rest of their lives.
This is her story…
Despite having three beautiful boys, Chloe and her husband Rohan really wanted a girl.
So they decided to try one last time.
They were thrilled to find out that she was pregnant again.
They got the shock of their lives when few later Chloe went to get an ultrasound.
When they told us that what was supposed to be our ‘fourth and final’ baby is actually our fourth, fifth and sixth. I’m still so completely shocked to be honest. I’m scared, excited, overwhelmed, overjoyed and every other emotion known to man.
It turned out that the two brothers were taking all the space and the little girl`s situation was getting worse by the day.
She was informed by the doctors that her little girl will die if they didn`t operate, but doing so, they would also risk the lives of the two healthy boys.
So, Chloe was forced to choose between giving her little girl a chance at life, but risking the lives of her two healthy boys or let the boys come out strong and healthy with almost zero chance for her daughter.
At the time I could barely listen to any of that.. My mind was on a one way track of ‘I want ALL of my babies’, I did briefly consider the alternative, I did a lot of research and tried to get a feel for what they were in for.. I knew it would be tough but I just couldn’t give up on her.. I knew she was strong because she made it all the way to 28 weeks, when she was barely getting any nutrients in the womb.
I have felt so much guilt over my decision to deliver, especially early on when all three babies were going through so much in hospital and Pearl was dropping below her birthweight of 690g (1lb8oz), she was on a ventilator, fighting off infections, barely holding on. Sometimes I felt like I made the wrong decision, sometimes I felt like if I had chosen the other option, none of them would be suffering. And it was hard to admit that and deal with those feelings.
As days went by, all three babies grew stronger.
Rohan took such good care of the other three children, so Chloe focused on getting better, knowing that everything will be just fine.
Even now, when she thinks back about her choice, her heart aches. She is beyond grateful and happy of how everything worked out.
Here is a picture of their children, all together for the first time.
Congratulations to the Dunstan family!