New Mom Called ‘Ungrateful’ For Being Upset After Family Gives Her Baby Clothes For Her Birthday
It often happens that when a woman becomes a mother, people in her life start diminishing her personhood and put all the spotlight on her role as a mother – forgetting everything else about her and who she is as a person. We’re well aware that being a mother is only one aspect of a woman’s identity, and becoming a mother doesn’t change the fact that the person is still an individual with many other qualities and interests.
Case in point, one woman who recently gave birth to a baby was offended and hurt when her birthday came around, and she was greeted with gifts that were only for her baby – and none for her. However, when she argued about it, she was accused that she was ungrateful for the gifts, so she decided to take it to Reddit’s popular Am I The A-hole subreddit and ask: AITA (30f) for being upset at my family for giving me baby clothes for my birthday.
In her story, the 30-year-old woman shared that she had a baby a few months ago, and a lot of people have been really generous with buying them baby clothes. However, at one point, she asked her family to stop because they already have more than enough clothes. Still, some family members insist on buying brand new clothes for the baby.
The issue arouse when it was her birthday recently, and a few family members got her birthday gifts – but all of it was baby stuff. Bibs, clothes, soothers – all for the baby. So, understandably, the OP looked disappointed, and one family member made a comment about how rude it was to not appreciate a gift.
The woman tried to act thankful, but some family members could tell that she was upset, and several people have since told her that she was ungrateful and selfish, and that she should appreciate what she’s gotten. However, she’s still upset and she shared that she feels like no one cares about her, just about her daughter. We invite you to check out the full story, and decide who is in the wrong.
The majority of Reddit voted that she’s not in the wrong here – especially after she specifically told them that they don’t need any more baby stuff.
Mothers still have an identity – outside of motherhood – and if some people are not prepared to respect that, it’s their fault.