Study Find Some People Might Be Happier Single Than In Relationship

Study Find Some People Might Be Happier Single Than In Relationship

People are complicated creatures, and we complicate things even more by getting into relationships. No, it doesn’t have to be that way, but it’s how society is programmed, and it seems like there’s no way around it at this point.

It all starts from our earliest age and follows us through adolescence, so we get a picture of what we’re supposed to do when we’re adults. But what’s the problem here? The picture is, more often than not, heavily distorted.

We get to think that we must be in a relationship or otherwise we’re doing something wrong, we’re not worthy, etc. There are numerous examples of this, and it seems like the world is tailored for people in relationships. This is further fueled by society’s expectations of you, starting with your closest family and friends. If you’ve ever been to a wedding without a aprtner, you probably know what we’re talking about: all those questions about WHEN will you settle down. Oh, and when someone goes through a breakup, the instinctive is to reassure them that there’s someone out there for them.

But what if not everyone is meant to pair off? What if you don’t want to be in a couple? What if you’re happier when you’re single?

A recent study by the University of Auckland’s School of Psychology compared happiness levels among a specific group of single people and married people, and it looked into something called ‘avoidance goals’ and ‘approach goals’.

But what does that mean? Well, it means that not every person is motivated by the same things in life. And, there’s the difference between ‘avoidance goals’ and ‘approach goals’. So, some people are motivated by going after things they like, while others are more concerned about avoiding undesirable outcomes.
Of course, it’s not all black and white, and we’re all mixed bags, but people typically fall on one or the other side of the spectrum. So, the new study found that low-avoidance singles were less happy than low-avoidance married people.

What does this mean? It means that people who were more motivated by their goals and did get married, do experience a bit more happiness.

However, single people who are on the high-avoidance side of the spectrum showed the same level of happiness as high-avoidance married people. Theoretically, these people could find themselves miserable in a relationship for whatever reason, so they avoid them in the first place – and they’re perfectly fine with it! So, singlehood might be the best choice for some.

In the end, some people want to find their ‘happily ever after’, and there’s nothing wrong with it. However, some people prefer single life, and there’s nothing wrong with it too! Don’t let society pressure you into doing something you don’t want to just because ‘the time is right’ or because you don’t want your family to nag you about it. Enjoy life as much as you can, and live the life YOU want to!

Source: Upworthy


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