This Woman Explains The Lyrics Of “Baby It’s Cold Outside” And It’s Not What You Think

This Woman Explains The Lyrics Of “Baby It’s Cold Outside” And It’s Not What You Think

The holiday season is coming up and with it all the Christmas carols.

Michael Bublé, Mariah Carey and many others a part of the artist who have covered a big number of Christmas songs.

“Baby It’s Cold Outside” is one of those Christmas classics. There has been some fuss over the song’s context for a while now, and you may be one of those people who think that its lyrics are misogynistic and sexist.

However, this Tumblr user, that goes by @teachingwithcoffee, took it upon herself to explain the lyrics of the song, and it actually shed a very different light on it.

Describing herself as a ‘former English teacher’ and a ’30s and 40s jazz enthusiast’, she very well explains the historical context and the meaning of the song.

You can read it below and tell us your opinion.




Even though the song is call and response (mand and woman), I believe this to be a woman’s song.
I also believe the female singer is winking at us.
The internet says;
“Although some critical analyses of the song have highlighted parts of the lyrics such as ‘What’s in this drink?’ and the wolf’s unrelenting pressure for her to stay in spite of her repeated suggestions that she should go home, others have noted that cultural expectations of the time period were such that women were not socially permitted to spend the night with a boyfriend or fiancé, and that the woman states that she wants to stay, while ‘What’s in this drink?’ was a common idiom of the period used to rebuke social expectations by blaming one’s actions on the influence of alcohol.”
I entirely agree with this.

I don’t get the last two sentences. Can anyone explain this? She makes this case that it’s not a song about rape, and then turns around and says it’s about rape culture. I don’t get it. To me it’s just a song about someone coming on strong to a date, while she’s ambivalent and thinking of rationales to have or to not have intercourse. This discussion about “hey, what’s in this drink” is very interesting.

Sun Fellow – what she means by the last two sentences is:
(1) this song is not about rape – these two are willingly playing a game. The woman WANTS to stay but is giving all the reasons a supposed “good girl” would leave. He, meanwhile, is giving her all the reasons why a true gentleman would insist a lady stay – which, in this case, are for her own safety since it’s cold and dangerous outside.
(2) this song is about rape culture – this woman, in that era, could not say yes even if that’s what she truly wanted (and from her language in the song, we gather it IS what she wanted) because it would be inappropriate for a decent woman to stay with a man overnight whether she slept with him or not. When culture dictates that a woman cannot voice a clear “yes”, then it makes her “no” ambiguous.

Today, we like to say “no means no”. During the time this song was produced, “No” probably meant “no” most of the time, sometimes meant “maybe” and on occasion meant “Yes, YES!”, thus leading to men NOT taking “no” for an answer because, chances were, a “no” from a woman wasn’t a real answer after all. Back then.

The problem with all of this speculation about the intent, is that the common argument among rape apologists NOW is that women want sex but claim they didn’t “in the morning” because it is not acceptable for women to have sex. So the point isn’t necessarily what the original meaning was but rather the fact that it supports the narrative that women are liars when it comes to their admitting to having sex and thus all men are endangered whenever we believe women who say they’ve been raped.

Bert van Aalsburg

If she is a free woman, why would she need a drink as an excuse to do what she wants to do?

That excuse perpetuates the myth that a man can get what he wants, only if he gets the woman drunk enough to say yes.

It’s a creepy song and I wouldn’t mind consigning it to the dustbin of history.

> If she is a free woman, why would she need a drink as an excuse to do what she wants to do?

You’re kidding, right? Social mores in the 1940s, especially for women, are not the same, not even close, to what they are in 2018. Women were expected to behave a certain way. They didn’t have true agency over their decisions or bodies, because society would judge them harshly for it.

From the mid- 70s to the mid 80s I recall four occasions when a woman missed her last bus or there was inclement weather, etc. necessitating an overnight stay. Each woman refused the couch, saying it would be uncomfortable, and extracted a solemn vow that I would not do anything or try anything while she slept beside me in one of my T-shirts. As per promise I behaved like a perfect gentleman every time, and each time my reward, after making us a nice breakfast, was to be blanked and ghosted. Calls went unreturned and letters (anyone remember those?) were ignored.

A little older by the mid 1980s and the occasion arising again with the same solemn vow demanded and pledged I made a gentle experimental pass and was leapt upon in a most enthusiastic manner. Next morning at breakfast I mentioned the other women’s previous behaviour and have never seen a woman laugh so hard while calling me an idiot.

I have nothing further to say.

I think it is very hard for anyone born after 1960 to understand what it was like in the ’40s, 50s, and less so in the 60s. It was a woman’s responsibility, in the eyes of society to be “good”. I’m not saying this is right, but that’s just the way it was. The article is right on. It was all about flirtation, and sending signals, without being too overt. For men, it was all about reading signals and accepting them without being too creepy. Whether you think he is being creepy or not, if you look at it as flirtatious play, where both parties are willing, but they are playing the parts that society has assigned them. She is being as good as she can be considering that she really does want to stay, and he is being as understanding as he can be, considering that he really wants her to stay, but society dictates that neither of can really say what is on their minds.

This is a great song…. Absolutely ridiculous to read deeply into the lyrics…
Obviously brought about because of the “me too” movement is now so totally out of control….. that “the accused are in some cases becoming the victims”

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