There’s a Reddit forum dedicated to abstaining from pleasuring yourself, and it currently has more than 450k members, of which about 5% are female.
The NoFap community has gained a strange prominence since it was founded in 2011 by web developer Alexander Rhodes, and it was inspired by a small study which suggested that male testosterone levels rose after seven days of abstinence from ejaculation. So, followers of this movement avoid pleasuring themselves in order to “reboot” their brains.
The movement first gained momentum among men on Reddit, and the community regards NoFap as a health program to combat addiction to adult movies. However, many NoFappers also believe that refraining from pleasuring themselves can lead to increased energy levels and confidence to command respect from peers, or even “cure” social anxiety.
The NoFap Reddit has more than 450,000 members, and one of them is female YouTuber Kristel.
She told The Guardian that she felt more motivation, more willpower, and more discipline after starting NoFap.
In order to engage the rising female cohort, the NoFap community has introduced new female members, including female moderators. Kristel says that even though most of the responses she gets are positive and encouraging, there are people who don’t take it too seriously, and some people believe that girls don’t even pleasure themselves, to begin with.
However, the dark side of the movement is its focus on testosterone that inherently idealizes masculine traits. Some NoFappers believe that higher testosterone levels make them more attractive to women, and it eventually objectifies women and frames them as the “prize”.
So, what drives women to participate in this movement?
Female YouTuber Alana, 29, is also a part of the movement, and she believes the biggest issue is adult movies. She believes the approach to intimate life in these movies is built around the man’s pleasure, and it makes people objectify women.
Kristel adds that the unrelenting theme of male dominance, unrealistic body standards, and the overly performative scenes made watching adult content a discomforting experience for her. She claims she is now able to enjoy intimate life in a way that she wasn’t able to before.
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