No one wants to be ignored, especially when they have something to say. However, being ignored just because of your gender, race, or culture takes it to another level. Unfortunately, women are still being ignored in some places just because they’re, well, women – even in 2021!
Reddit user Teacherspet5859438e recently started a thread on the popular subreddit r/AskReddit in which they asked women to share their stories about times when they’ve been ignored just because of their male partners, colleagues, or friends were next to them – even when they were the client.
Some of the responses are just disappointing, but some of them might actually make you sick! Check out the most popular responses for yourself below, and feel free if you’ve ever been ignored by a salesperson or someone else just because your male partner, friend, or family member was next to you and they seemed ‘more competent’.
quite I was looking at a house to buy one lunchtime and a male work colleague came along with me since he had nothing better to do. The salesman spoke only to him, pointing out the advantages of the property despite the fact that Peter said we were not in a relationship, and I was the one looking to buy. I told him I would not buy a house from his company ever because of the way he treated me and then rang up his female boss and told her the same.
Quite recently I was interested in buying a new car and phoned a dealer to ask the price including some add ons and he went straight into a description of what colours were available and how he could bring any colour I liked around so I could test drive it that day. I repeated that I just wanted a quote on the price and colour was not important to me and he started off again about the colours available. I told him he was wasting his breath since he had not answered my question and he told me I was wasting his time. He did not get a sale.
I work a lot at expos with my own company. I once had a client step up and speak to me at the booth, and procede to ask if the guy behind me if he was the boss and to speak to him. He was just a friend of mine visiting the booth to say hi. So he told him “you jist spoke to the boss” and I had to inform him I was the owner of the company.
I’m a metal sculptor, and as a female working in a male dominant field, credit is normally given to the man in the gallery standing closest to me. At every single event I hear that I am such a small woman and it’s hard to believe I created my artwork. Over the last decade I have gotten used to it, but I never received the same treatment from my subcontractors or material distributors- until after the pandemic.
My sales representative at metal distribution left the company post pandemic. Most of the faces I had seen the past decade were gone. As I pulled in the warehouse, and met the sheet metal loader at his station, I gave specific instructions for how my material needed to be loaded onto my transport. The young man ignored me, and told me how he would do it. I explained the material weight, and how axle, tongue, and tail weight on my vehicle works. He continued to fight with me and loaded the material how he wanted. Seeing that I was not going to get anywhere with the dock worker I agreed to take a partial load (to manage the weight on the machinery I own), and left.
When I got back to my studio, 2 hours later (that’s how far I live from distributor), I called my new sales rep and told him in detail about the experience. We agreed the new warehouse/dock worker was sexist and devised a plan so that from here on out the warehouse will receive loading instructions from him prior to my arrival. Kinda bogus.