If often happens that when people finally decide to open up about their problems, the primary instinct of the other person is to cheer them up and tell them that everything will eventually work out. It’s in the human nature to make the troubled person feel better, but we sometimes unconsciously force positivity on them – and they can’t see the lighter side of the situation at that moment.
The notion of dismissing negative emotions while trying to forcefully make something good in a terrible situation and trying to find false reassurance is called toxic positivity – and is very common.
However, it’s very important to feel the emotions and go through them – regardless if they’re positive or negative, and people in the AskWomen subreddit have been sharing some phrases they believe fall in the toxic positivity category.
So, they shared what they would actually like to hear instead of well wishes and compassion.