There are many, many ways to live a happy life, and not all of them include having children and being married. And, even science has our back on this one.
According to a leading “expert in happiness”, women who don’t have a partner and children are actually happier than the rest of the population.
Paul Dolan is a professor of behavioral science at the London School of Economics and best-selling author of Happiness By Design, and he recently spoke about the topic.
He said in his speech that traditional standards for success don’t actually correlate with happiness, and it’s especially the case when it comes to tying the knot and raising kids.
He told The Guardian that married people are happier than other population subgroups, but they only answered that when their spouse was in the room and they were asked how happy they are. However, when the spouse is not present, they said that they are miserable.
And, even though the studies presumably apply to both men and women, Dolan added that the negative effects of marriage are compounded for women. Marriage often leads to taking fewer risks and making more money at work for men, but women are at a higher risk of developing physical conditions and mental illnesses when married. Oh, and they also tend to lose their lives sooner than their single counterparts, adds Dolan.
He also noted that the social stigma of singledom at middle age might make some women feel pressured or unhappy at times, but the reality is that there are plenty of benefits to an unmarried and childless lifestyle.
Many people react like “it’s a shame” when they see a single woman in her 40s, and they say that maybe one day she’ll “meet the right person and it will all change for her”. However, the reality is that she will maybe meet the wrong guy and it will change for her. She will meet a guy that will make her less happy and healthy, and she will lose her life sooner.