Travis D. Hughes is a real-estate lawyer that recently proudly shared on Twitter that his wife, who is almost 7 months pregnant, wasn’t in the mood to work out that morning. Rather than lecture to her, though, the husband just “threw on the exercise video and did it with her”.
Hughes probably expected people to applaud him for what he did, and yes, we must admit that having a partner that helps us and encourages us to do something good for ourselves is probably welcome. What the internet absolutely hated was the fact that the real-estate lawyer described his motivational technique as ‘unique’ because he didn’t “lecture to her, resent her, or whine about it”.
My wife, who is almost 7 mos. pregnant, wasn’t in the mood to work out this morning. So, rather than lecture to her, resent her, or whine about it, I threw on the exercise video and did it with her. Our kids saw us and joined in.
No one talks about this part of marriage/dating.
— Travis D. Hughes 🇺🇸 (@TravisDHughes) May 3, 2020
Errm, what? Why on earth would someone ever say, or even think about those things? Resent your own 7-months pregnant wife for not wanting to work out?
Luckily, the Twitter-sphere recognized his b-s (yes, call me crazy, but this is absolute b-s behavior in my book), and that’s basically what everyone else thought about the “motivational” tweet.
Why in the name of christ would anyone resent their 7 month pregnant wife’s lack of desire to work out? Why would they put the exercise video on anyway and guilt them into exercising, and most of all why would they admit all this publicly? https://t.co/1O6Ve4lZ1d
— Andrew Galvin (@MaxHomo) May 3, 2020
Why would you “lecture to her, resent her, or whine about it” if she didn’t exercise? I guess I don’t understand.
I’m not married- is this what happens in marriage?
— Dr. Jennifer Caudle (@DrJenCaudle) May 3, 2020
Why would you lecture, resent, or whine to your wife about her not working out?
— Jennifer Gunter (@DrJenGunter) May 3, 2020
“No one talks about this part of marriage/dating”. On the contrary we do. A lot! Patriarchy cloaked in toxic encouragement is one of the many tricks that controlling men use. “I know your needs better than you” reeks of parental direction. Not to mention the lack of empathy.
— MrsBundrige (@MrsBundrige) May 3, 2020
I’ve been married for over 20 years and couldn’t imagine my partner lecturing / resenting / prodding me to do anything I didn’t want to do. Especially if I was seven months pregnant.
I feel sorry for your wife. 😢
— drwatson (@terrinwatson) May 3, 2020